Beyond Dragons

Just as Game of Thrones left me cold at the end of season two with an overkill of violence and sexism (leaving viewers like me without a character we could believe in or a narrative arc that wasn’t an emotional sinkhole), I find myself in a no-woman’s land on many levels.  This is fairly obvious, […]

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May 16th, 2016 by Wanda

The Day in Court

Wordsworth wrote that poetry is “the spontaneous overflow of powerful feelings: it takes its origin from emotion recollected in tranquility.” Been waiting for tranquility in order to write eloquently about the day in court, but it’s not forthcoming. Long story short, the cougar ex-wife showed up with a sack and ashes routine. No highlights, hair cut […]

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May 1st, 2014 by Wanda

Disturbance in the Forcefield: Or Why I Hate Facebook

Everything comes full circle. So when this circus began, the ex went on Facebook and said nasty things about me. Friends rallied. Then she took them down. That was the fall of 2010. Last week, she created one of those fund-raising web-sites, which she linked to her Facebook page with pictures of her children 10 […]

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February 26th, 2014 by Wanda


This is poison soup to kill the bad witches she said. How can you tell the difference? I asked. O, good witches are very polite & say no thank you. Bad witches just die. –Brian Andreas   So bad witches are greedy. True enough. And maybe the good witches are a bit more perceptive? And […]

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January 2nd, 2014 by Wanda

The Law and Irrational Behavior

This is a post about how my husband’s ex-wife is irrational, but not unreasonable and only sometimes illogical, and how this helps her to get away with everything short of murder. Yes, these are the kinds of distinctions I enjoy spending time thinking about and which are holding me above water while we wait for rescue. […]

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November 17th, 2013 by Wanda

A Shout-out to All Witches

So, here’s a belated Halloween shout-out to all witches. I have over the past few years gained a new appreciation for all women in various times and places who have been called witches, or the equivalent thereof, because they had a particular skill set others envied, were smart, maybe clever or wise, or, heaven forbid, […]

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November 4th, 2013 by Wanda

My Family and the Root of Loving-kindness

It’s really very simple, but not at all common. As I stood in the midst of aunts and uncles, cousins and their children, my parents, a great uncle, and my grandparents, it struck me how imminently kind my family is. Ranging in age from 2 to 90, we live in different parts of the country, […]

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October 30th, 2013 by Wanda

Justice Compassion Justice: The Dalai Lama and a Little Bit of Durga

This has been a strange couple of weeks–last week’s visit to hear the Dalai Lama speak sandwiched between two courtroom appearances–although the Dalai Lama is less like lunchmeat and more like some kind of exquisite ice cream holding together two chocolate wafers. What a quirky little man. And yet, he is a force. The more […]

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October 13th, 2013 by Wanda

The Interminable Law Suit: Will It Ever Be Over?

We all know that lawsuits, like house renovations, drag on outrageously long, causing the parties involved financial and emotional distress. But I have reached a point where I truly do not understand why this has not been resolved. When I do not understand something, I seek the wisdom of others. I have exhausted the conventional […]

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August 23rd, 2013 by Wanda

Crocodile Tears: A New Game for Second Wives

One of my earlier posts (“The End of Alimony”) referenced an article in Time Magazine concerning the growth of a movement in the United States to revisit alimony laws which put ex-husbands at a financial disadvantage. The burden of paying alimony to an ex-wife can be too great or for too long. So-called second wives […]

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July 29th, 2013 by Wanda