The Law and Irrational Behavior

This is a post about how my husband’s ex-wife is irrational, but not unreasonable and only sometimes illogical, and how this helps her to get away with everything short of murder. Yes, these are the kinds of distinctions I enjoy spending time thinking about and which are holding me above water while we wait for rescue. […]

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November 17th, 2013 by Wanda

My Family and the Root of Loving-kindness

It’s really very simple, but not at all common. As I stood in the midst of aunts and uncles, cousins and their children, my parents, a great uncle, and my grandparents, it struck me how imminently kind my family is. Ranging in age from 2 to 90, we live in different parts of the country, […]

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October 30th, 2013 by Wanda

Justice Compassion Justice: The Dalai Lama and a Little Bit of Durga

This has been a strange couple of weeks–last week’s visit to hear the Dalai Lama speak sandwiched between two courtroom appearances–although the Dalai Lama is less like lunchmeat and more like some kind of exquisite ice cream holding together two chocolate wafers. What a quirky little man. And yet, he is a force. The more […]

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October 13th, 2013 by Wanda

Crocodile Tears: A New Game for Second Wives

One of my earlier posts (“The End of Alimony”) referenced an article in Time Magazine concerning the growth of a movement in the United States to revisit alimony laws which put ex-husbands at a financial disadvantage. The burden of paying alimony to an ex-wife can be too great or for too long. So-called second wives […]

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July 29th, 2013 by Wanda

Bullying: Not Just for Children

When I was in grade school, it was not uncommon for kids to duke it out on the playground, get into some minimal amount of trouble with the principal, and find everything returned to normal within a few days. In junior high school, I remember slapping a boy in the face who had grabbed me in a compromising place, and that […]

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February 16th, 2013 by Wanda

Gun Control: Weighing In

People like to argue that when we lobby for gun control, we are throwing out the baby with the bath water, that people kill, not guns. Because we are a nation focused on particular individual rights to the exclusion others, we make this argument. I lived in Europe for quite a few years, and there were […]

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January 10th, 2013 by Wanda