I Will Not Give Her a Weapon

I like words. I like to write. At first, I didn’t defend myself because stirring the pot could upset custody issues and take the focus off of the important things. I didn’t want to turn into Jerry Springer. So I said nothing. It cost me dearly. I’m not the kind of person who spouts off […]

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June 10th, 2014 by Wanda

Anger Revisited

What do you do when your nemesis (never mind you never wanted one) is a volcano of anger that erupts regularly but still without warning? What if you’ve taken precautions, staked out lava walls (I’m imaging these are like dikes, but heat-resistant), but that gaseous, toxic, skin-searing stuff keeps leaking under and over? What if […]

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June 7th, 2013 by Wanda

Jealousy: Uglier Than I Ever Imagined

Years ago I remember getting into my car in a parking garage and being stopped by an angry lady. She wanted to know if I had already paid my parking fee. (It was one of those parking garages where you pay the ticket at a machine and then feed the ticket into the turnstileĀ on the […]

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January 26th, 2013 by Wanda

Anger and Alimony

I find it helpful to think of anger as the frustration experienced when desire goes unfulfilled. Desire is how we project ourselves into the world, and this is a good thing. Or it should be, if the desire is healthy. If the desire is unhealthy–like, say, you want your ex-husband to take care of you […]

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December 24th, 2012 by Wanda

Anger: So What?

Of course emotions are more like cognitive judgments than irrational impulses. So-called “women’s intuition” is much more like the rapid-fire intake of information, analysis, and decision-making described by Malcolm Gladwell in Outliers than a touchy-feely guess. More importantly, emotions say something about the experience of being in the world, and some are inherently ethical in […]

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December 13th, 2012 by Wanda